I have been a bit quite of late, last week I was away up in Rotorua
supporting family for a tangi (funeral). It was a very emotional
time seeing auntie's, uncle's, cousins that I haven't seen in years
all in one place supporting each other and celebrating life.
It's quite "ironic" that before I left I watched the movie called
The Bucket List with Morgan Freeman & Jack Nicolas. The Bucket List
is about making a list of things you would like to do before you
"kick the bucket".
It's a great movie that makes you think, what do you really want to
do before you Kick the Bucket?
I mean really, what do you want to do?
I wrote a list in 5th August 2003 of what I wanted to achieve by
certain dates, the goals I did achieve I didn't achieve in the
"time frame" BUT I did achieve them.
The funny thing was I wrote this list out, printed about 5 copies
got them lamented and then forgot all about it!
I found the list a year ago when we moved house and read what I
wrote down and saw what I had achieved!
There is something to be said for "Inking what your Thinking"!
Every great leader that has achieved something has started with
Now we all know that making a list is NOT the only thing you must
do but it's a very good place to start!
Here's some of what I achieved in the list that I had forgotten
1) Buy Laptop (still got it, I wrote this from it :-)
2) To develop me as a "whole" person (While I'm still learning about
this one, I'm far more 'whole' then in 2003, I can promise you!
In fact in the same year my son was born I left the relationship
with his mother as we were unhappy but doing nothing about it!)
3) Own my own Car (Still got it and 'thinking' about getting a new
4) Go to USA and meet Juan Carlos Santana (Awesome trip, went to
Ryan Lee's first bootcamp for fitness pro's, he's holding his 3rd
one this year!)
5) Train Professional Athletes (Jason "Pshcyo" Suttie & Shane
6) Get Diving Certificate (What an awesome experience that everyone
should do at least once in their life!)
7) Work on my parenting skills (Does this ever end :-)
WOW, as I write this I'm amazed how I pulled some of these off,
after all I had NO idea of the HOW with any of this!
There's a lot more that I didn't achieve I can assure you,
however it all starts with a list rather then wishing I had X and Y!
In fact every day I write a list of what I want to achieve in that
day, it's kinda of a, To do list, goal list, moving forward list.
So what is my "Bucket List" at the moment?
I'll share with you some of what I would like to achieve before
I Kick the bucket! :-)
1) Live with Unconditional Love for my family/friends;
This is easy to say but HARD TO LIVE!! Unconditional means to me
NO MATTER WHAT, no matter what doesn't mean I stand by and except
bullshyt behavior but that I look at the behavior/action from a
higher ground of compassion and love NO MATTER WHAT the loved
one has DONE!
2) Become Financially FREE = Most people have 'negative' beliefs
The figure that will give you FREEDOM depends on the lifestyle
we choose to live.
So to make everyone feel comfortable I'll put it down as 6 figures,
once this is achieved then we'll assess if 7 figures is required.
To be honest, I look at money as Cost vs Benefit, what is the cost
of me achieving 7 figures? 60+hrs per week and no family time or not
seeing my kids prize givings/sports events etc, then 7 figures is
NOT worth the benefits I perceive it to give me!
3) Bring the Unconscious to the Conscious =
Live from a place of conscious choices rather then a reaction of
This statement unlocks a small door to a massive maze of "stuff"
that forces me to FOREVER grow in all aspects of my life;
Physically, Spiritually, Emotionally and Mentally!
There is very little room for bullshyt here I can assure you!
Sometimes I get it and other times I'm bathing in a bath of
self made crap that I've created and I'm just to ignorant to
But what about the flash cars, house, boats, penthouse, woman and
all the bling bling!!
What I believe right now is that I'll get my Ducati bike when I can
learn more about me (and I've already got the woman I want :-)!
Actually I KNOW I can get the bike when I WANT, I just choose to
do it "knowing me first"!
Therefore I can consciously CHOOSE to be a prick with a
Ducati & money rather then a prick that doesn't know he is one due
to his own insecurities and or ego!
Hopefully you get my drift, so what's your Bucket list?
My aunty who passed away last Friday new she had 1 month to live,
you know what she did which was in here Bucket list?
She made "peace" with everyone who was in her life, even those that
she had 'drama' with!
She transcended hate, anger, resentment, blame, victim-ness, guilt
and loved unconditionally everything and everyone that touched her
in her last few weeks of life!
Why do we wait for death to be at our bed before we "choose" to
I've read and herd how people have moved to higher ground when put
into "stressful" situations however I've never seen it.
While I wasn't there for her last few weeks of life every time
I spoke to her (months before her last few weeks)
I could here a "different" person that spoke to me,
some one that was free of anger, resentment, hate and all other
negative emotions that keep us down!
I saw the impact she left on those that where there in the last few
weeks, how clear they where of the drama that they once had with
her and they spoke how she had a different "ora" around her and
how beautiful it was to see!
What better gift to leave a legacy with, a gift of
Unconditional Love for everyone!
Thanks Aunty Ana for showing us it can be done!
Love ya always,
P.S. Your emotional state as a human being has an impact on your
health and HOW you look. So if the squats you are doing aren't
working, check yourself for "stuff" you may be holding onto
P.P.S. Live, Love, Learn and Leave a Legacy!!